4/25/12

a little girl named Hailie







This is my youngest cousin, Hailie Grace. Her mom is my mom's youngest sister - who is 12 years older than me. I grew up feeling like she was my big sister - so when Hailie was born, I felt like she was my niece more than my cousin.

Anyway, Hailie is 3 but you wouldn't think she is. She's a talker, and she's quite a grown-up lady in her little body. I love love love her to pieces. I wish they lived closer to us - but her dad's job is tied in Texas - so unless her dad gets transferred to Utah, I would just have to settle to seeing her every once in a while.

Enjoy our Hailie - I think she's one of the prettiest little things alive :)

4/20/12

unedited acknowledgement

The day has arrived. And I couldn't have done it without the many people (and things) that helped me get to this special day. The acknowledgement page of my thesis is limited to one page only.... and that simply is not enough space for me to express all the gratitude that has filled my heart. This is, therefore, my acknowledgement - UNCUT.

I am grateful for all the blessing my Heavenly Father and my Savior Jesus Christ has given me. Sometimes, I am not as appreciative of those blessings as I should, but the Lord's hands and His tender mercies has kept me going in all my endeavors. He is a God of miracles, and I have a strong testimony that I am engraved in his palms.

I am grateful to BYU. My journey to BYU was not easy, in fact, I almost did not get in. But through the grace of God, I came to BYU and started my advanced education. I decided to study family and human development. It is a social science of its own, with theoretical roots from psychology and sociology. Some people might think family life is plain common sense. I beg to differ. I believe in the long held sociological assumption that things are not always what they seem. The same applies to the family. Now, more than ever, we need to re-assess our understanding of the family as a microcosm of our society. I am blessed to be studying family science in BYU - where traditional family values are upheld. In a lot of ways, it gave me the moral ground which served as my perspective through all the theoretical and empirical assumptions that does not always sway toward the divine design of the family.


I am grateful to Dr. Rick Miller who served as my mentor and advisor. He is an amazing person. When I applied to the program, I did not have a preference as to which professor I wanted to work with. When I got accepted, I learned he picked me from the roster of accepted students - and working with him has been absolutely amazing. He's one heck of a smart guy, and yet he is a very down to earth never to brag person. He is a big person, both in physical stature and in his academic career - but his HEART is even bigger. He wasn't only my academic advisor - he was also a friend and a father. Without Rick, I would not have accomplished anything!


I am also thankful to Dr. Dean Busby and Dr. Jason Carroll. Dean helped me a lot with my methodologies. He, and a couple of other professors, are in charge of the RELATE Institute, where all the data I've ever used while in the program were gathered from. He is an amazing person, though some people are intimidated by him. He looks pretty intimidating, but his humor is just a little bit different and that's why some people don't get him. I took his methods class my first semester in graduate school - it was horrible in the beginning. I scored the lowest in the class during our first quiz in statistics. By the end of the semester, he told me I HAVE COME A LONG WAY and he was VERY IMPRESSED. With the grade that I received in that class, I was impressed of myself too. I've NEVER received a grade better than B in any of my research methods class - in Dean's class, I received an A-. Jason is my go to professor when I am having trouble with concepts. My background is in psychology and some sociology, but I am a newbie when it comes to applying sociological/psychological theories in family studies. But when I ask Jason anything, he can go on and on and on and on and by the end of it I feel like I've learned so much. When I consulted with him by the end of my first year in the program and told him my research directions for my thesis, he immediately asked if I would like him to be in my committee! That's how invested he was in my academic success. Without these two great men, I would have butted heads with Rick every time I sent in a draft of my manuscript.

Dr. Jason Carroll and Dr. Dean Busby
These two ladies are angels. La Rita made sure my contracts were updated and I got paid, my scholarship funds were always available, and my research related expenses were reimbursed. Shannon made sure my academic plan was in line - from deadlines to evaluations and books I need for teaching - She made sure I was covered. La Rita and Shannon made my graduate life a lot easier to handle.


Most of my time in graduate school was spent in the "lab." But I wasn't alone - I was in the company of amazing people who provided each other with academic, emotional, even spiritual support. We went through crazy data and models together, and made sense of statistical output together. Some days were crazy, but they became fun because we were in it together!


Of course, I am grateful for my family and friends. Without their prayers and support, it would have been a lot more challenging to get through school. I am lucky to have family who supports me in my pursuits, and to have friends who know when to pull me out of my rut. 


My parents were not able to come celebrate with us because my youngest sister's college graduation was the same day as mine, in the Philippines. But even in their absence, I know they feel how grateful I am for the great influence they have in my life.

congrats dear sister :)

Last but not the least, I am deeply grateful to one my eternal love - Carl. For everything he does for our family, and for the love that he has for me... I am the luckiest woman on earth.

4/12/12

one step closer

I started school in 1991 - I was 4 years old turning 5. My mom always told people how independent I was - never cried a single tear when they dropped me off my first day of school. I've loved school. It was like I was born and raised in the school system. My parents met in school when they were just barely starting their careers as professors. During my growing up years, I spent a lot of my time in school. Somehow, it rubbed on me... I've been a PROFESSIONAL STUDENT for 20 years -  and I am not quite done yet.

My masters program is almost done. I officially graduate in June 2012. Supposedly, I will graduate by the end of April. But I didn't make the deadlines for my thesis. My thesis is in the works all right - but graduate school has, in the words of my advisor, "ridiculous deadlines." I've spent countless hours reading, writing, reading, and writing again. I've had a couple of liters of soda and a couple of bags of doritos, wheat thins, and pita chips. I've almost memorized countless songs from my favorite Youtube playlists. In the end, I'll probably need a full week of sleeping (though I know that's quite impossible) to make up for the nights I didn't sleep.

And finally, I am defending my thesis on Monday, the 16th. It has been a crazy ride. I've learned a lot, about my field, my research interest, and my passion for cross-cultural understanding. Being in school is not as bad as it sounds. I believe it pays off somehow - in many different ways. As for me, I realized that I wanted to pursue the same career path my parents took almost 30 years ago. I want to be a professor too. I've seen how my parents changed the lives of young people whom they mentored. I've also seen how their profession has influenced the kind of life I have right now... And so I'd like to do that too - influence the lives of young people for good.

I am now one big step closer to that dream. I'll be staying in school for another three years - to earn my doctorate - just like my parents did. I know its going to be hard. I was a teenager when my parents earned their PhDs. It was old school then, and having your own electronic typewriter with automatic eraser was a lifesaver. Cut and paste was a literal thing. It was a lot of hard work and countless sleepless nights and sacrificial weekends. I've seen it first hand. So why am I doing it? Because I know it will pay off somehow.

I will have to confess that one of the few things I know I am really good at is being in school. I tried corporate life but it wasn't for me. I tried to juice out my brain with business ideas, but I simply couldn't execute. My mom always reminded me to focus on my strengths - and that's what I am going to do. What about family life? I think teaching is one of the most family-friendly careers out there. I am a product of it. As a child, my schedule was always in sync with my parents. Of course, there are trade-offs. But in the end, as I reflect on my own life, the rewards of having a career in the academe outweighs its costs.

So there - I am one big step closer to becoming the professor that I wish to become. And Carl is very supportive. Carl has his dreams too, and he is working hard to pursue those - for himself and for our family ... and I will be there for him too. After all, it takes two to tango.

4/5/12

Come Listen to the Prophets' Voice


We love general conference. There are a couple of things we love about it the most. First and foremost, we get to listen to the prophets and apostles and receive inspiration and personal revelation. Its a breath of fresh air and its like we get a break from the world. We receive comfort and at the admonition. The fact that we get to have general conference twice a year is a treat, especially in this busy world. We all need to feed our spirits, and general conferences weekend was indeed a feast.

A particular talk touched us deeply. In Elder Boyd K. Packer's address during the Saturday morning session of conference, he related an experience he had counseling a young couple who were told they would be unable to have children of their own. He told them that "their state was infinitely better than that of other couples who were capable of being parents but who rejected and selfishly avoided that responsibility." Elder Packer also reminded the couple that their desire to have children will "weigh heavily in your favor in [your] earthly lives and beyond" and that they are "better off because [you] wanted children and could not have them, as compared to those who could but would not have children." Most of you probably know that Carl and I are struggling with this issue. It was comforting to hear those words from Elder Packer. It strengthened and held us up, and gave us hope to look forward to the day when our children come.

Another thing we love about general conference is having friends over - a lot of friends! Its a time for reunions and reconnecting with people we haven't seen for a while. The California gang visited with us, this time with Liezel's family. We also got to hang out at the Catubay's and we sang and ate a lot. 


We look forward to next general conference - to get spiritual renewal and to rekindle precious bonds of friendship.